by Marily S. Gayeta
You look at yourself in the mirror and start searching for answers. And you see them staring back at you . You’re not pretty enough. Your
face has no symmetry .Your eyes don’t sparkle .Your smile is dull . You look so plain and boring . Or maybe , just maybe , you're downright ugly.
Other girls in school get chocolates and cute teddy bears from blushing boys. But not you .Other girls open their bags , and
giggle at the scented love notes ,
secretly slipped in by a young lad . But not you . All you have in your bag is a faded copy of an old
fairy tale , where a damsel in distress is rescued by a knight in shining
armor.
A delivery boy
sometimes comes to the office
with a bouquet of flowers , but it’s
never for you. It’s for the girl in the other cubicle. You join the others in
the teasing and light-hearted fun for
that lucky girl .You cheerfully compliment the roses , but deep inside , you’ve got a question : “
When will I ever get mine ?
You pass by guys on the streets , in the halls , or between tables at Starbucks. They never
notice you. Their eyes flit away from you instantly . They turn to their phones right away,or get smitten by that
sexy girl at the next table. They never see you. You are invisible to them. You don’t have
what it takes to be “ that ” girl .
The looks , the charm , the appeal.
You have none of those.
.
It hurts sometimes , doesn’t it ? To be a girl, to be a woman , and to be invisible to the opposite sex . You
don’t really thirst for attention , but
for sure , an occasional admiring look from a guy would somehow bolster your
feminine ego. Who wouldn’t feel
good with that ?
Other girls were given the beauty that society
admires. Others , like you , are lacking in it . Other girls have the appeal that captures guys’ attention
right away . But not you . They never bother to give you a second look.
Life
is not fair. It never was . It never will be. Accept
this fact with a bold ,open heart . Then
, get on with your life.
Stop crying at night because nobody has written a
love letter for you . Stop sulking in a corner because every girl in the gang
has a boyfriend ,while you’re sitting alone on the bench. Stop
pitying yourself because you don’t have a date on Valentine’s day . For God’s sake , girl , stop it .
But don’t give up just yet. Try to doll up , but
don’t overdo it . Find out which fashion style suits you. Develop your inner
beauty. Be kind. Do good things --- not for a show ---but because you mean it. Cultivate your talents. Learn how to play a musical instrument . The guitar or
keyboard perhaps ? That talent would be handy in a company party . Enrich your mind. Read good books. Be aware of the world. This will
prepare you for great conversations. Socialize, but don’t act like a slut. Act
confidently despite your physical flaws.
And maybe , he will notice you among the vast crowd.
There are a lot of men who fall in love with
character , talents and brains. And these are the men who keep lasting and profound relationships. He will fall in
love with you --- not instantly --- but gradually . Your knight will find you. Maybe not in chance encounters in exotic places , but
in little familiar corners where time is
essential for building intimacy .
When that time comes , he will fall in love with you
in a special way. No . Not like the New Year’s Eve fireworks that explode and
dazzle the senses , and then vanish in
thin air. His love will begin from a small spark . A very small spark that grows very
slowly , until it becomes a fire that engulfs his whole heart and his whole being .
His love will be like a steady flame that burns for all eternity .
Wow . That sounds so romantic .
But what if your knight does not come ?
So what , girl , so what. Nothing of what you did was in vain. The new clothes and perfume that you bought. The song that you learned how to play. The office mate that you helped. The news that you read . All of these things made you a happier and a better person. Never regret them just because you failed to catch a man.
Your happiness
should not depend on whether or not there’s a guy who loves you . Don’t give a shit about what society says you must feel if you don’t
have a man in your life. You can be happy even if no one holds your hand in
the park. You can be whole even if no one kisses you at night and says “ Good night , babe .I love you .” .A human
being doesn’t always need a romantic
partner to feel fulfilled . Focus on the
blessings of being single . The time . The chances . The independence. Family and friends . The full
range of choices you have in your life . Freedom can be as satisfying as
romantic love.
If your knight comes, well and good.
If he doesn’t, it’s okay .
You will be fine, girl . You are complete just as
you are .
